Sit down in a quiet place, without any distractions, and write down the answer to the three questions in relation to the day’s events:

What have I received from __________ ?

What have I given to __________ ?

What troubles and difficulties have I caused __________ ?

Ask yourself these questions and reflect on the answers.

It is important to be specific rather than general. For example, rather than stating that you received food today, write down the detail of the food that you received. Be as specific as possible. Don’t leave items off your list because they seem “trivial” or you receive them every day; it is quite important to notice and list such items.

In examining our relationship with another we begin by looking at what we have received from that person.